Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not here yet, so I will live in the present.
This is a new year and a fresh start with a chance to strive for something greater for my family and I. I don't know what the new year will bring nor do I have any sort of resolution, however, I am optimistic about this new year. I am going to try my best just to live be present. I won't rush ahead or live in the past, I will just simply take the moment as it comes. Here is to wishing you a healthy and happy 2022.
We did it!!!
We finished yet a second year of this pandemic. I am thankful that we made it through, all the ups and downs of the year. Parents pat yourselves on the back because it is not easy to navigate in normal circumstances, but to be pushing forward during this pandemic is a blessing. Best wishes to you for the upcoming year. May 2022 bring forth peace, love and more awesome memories with your children.
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| WELCOME 2022!!!! |
All of us have boundaries, at least most of us do. Creating boundaries is a way of practicing self care and creating a safe space and protecting one's peace. Protecting my peace is important to me, there is a lot going on in the world and there is so many things and people demanding my attention. This is why it's imperative to have boundaries in place.
When it comes to my children they are no different, they too need healthy boundaries, in this digital age. Especially during the teenage years, it's hard to keep up with teenagers. However, technology is not the only thing that needs to be addressed when it comes to boundaries. There is a whole host of things and situations that calls for boundaries to be set in place. Also, as a parent I am mindful that I too must respect my children's boundaries such as their privacy. This may mean not posting certain things on social media or listening to what they want instead of running away with my plans for them.
I had to face this very thing in planning my daughter's 16th birthday party, I wanted to make a big deal out out of her 16th birthday, but she wanted a small gathering to celebrate her special day. I knew that doing things my way would make her unhappy, and that is the last thing that I wanted to happen. In the end, I respected her and gave her what she needed and wanted. Boundaries goes both ways, and we all deserve to have our boundaries respected. Lastly, we are all learning, growing and evolving and so being kind and patient with each other could go a long way.
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| Your Concerns Are Important To Me. |
Moms,
I don"t know about you, but I sometimes undervalue what I bring to the table. In the midst of all the challenges, twists and turns of motherhood, sometimes, I forget about how valuable I am. It's easy to see what we aren't doing, and glance over the great things that we do. Sometimes, we have to clap for our selves and remind ourselves that we are doing our best. Our families depend on us and they love even when we don't hear them say it. The most important thing, is that we as moms know our worth. We will reap the benefits of our hard work if we persevere.
When those negative thoughts try to creep in, I will remember that I am valuable member of my family. Clap for yourself once in a while!
It has been busy, busy, busy around here.
I have been running around non stop these last few months. I am a working mom now and I have a high school senior. I sure that I don't have to tell you how nerve wrecking that is. I am trying to make sure he get's everything for college and keeping up with all the senior activities at the same time. It is a happy time, but also I feel like I am sitting on pins and needles. I know that in the end everything will be alright, we have to all do our part to get things moving along. Not to mention, I have another child who is in her sophomore year of high school, which feels like her freshman year because it's her first time in the building. I know that many of you are going through similar circumstances. Let us not get overwhelmed, because these are blessings. The fact that our families are progressing shows how blessed we are. Soon we will reap the benefits of our hard work as a family.
Growing up, it was "normal" for children to be seen and not heard, and a child should stay in a child's place. Let's tackle that subject. I do agree that a child should be respectful, and be privy to only child appropriate situations. When it comes to the notion that a child should not be heard, that is where I disagree. Everyone has thoughts, feelings and emotions, and should have a safe space to express those concerns. Children are little humans that are going through their own experiences in this world, making them feel less than does not help them in the long run.
That leads me to this point,
parents are not always right, simply put. The lines between parent and child is sometimes blurred and confusing. I can relate to this, nothing is ever smooth sailing when raising children. Whether you have one child or many, there are heck ups along the way. There are so many thoughts and feeling involved in a family dynamic, it's sometimes a challenge to see with sober eyes. With that being said, there are moments that I have to reflect and circle back to apologize to my children.
Having the wisdom to realize that I am wrong and then having the courage to apologize is a big step. I want to create a atmosphere that my children feel safe and valued. I am not right all the time just because I am the parent, and my parental authority does not make me less accountable for my actions. I am a mom that apologizes when I am wrong. I am not a perfect mom, but I am a good mom because I know when to admit that I am wrong. What are your thoughts about this topic? Do you apologize to your children? Feel free to comment, and let me know your thoughts.
Yes, Mommies!
I have been way too hard on myself in the role mom. I am done beating up on myself because honestly it makes the journey much more difficult than it needs to be. Life gets hard, but I am doing the best that I can and that is all that I can do. I know in my heart that I am doing the best that I can and that is all that I can do. I am learning that I cannot solve every problem and I don't have all the answers. I can do what I can and ask for help with other things and somethings will have to work themselves out. I stand in the power of being alright with not having it all figure out.
