This Self Care Stuff Is Hard!

 I know That I should be consistent with making time time for myself. However, it is hard to find time as a mom and a wife and let's add being in a global pandemic to that. Also, being hard on myself about not having time for self care is also not helping. I can't wait until this pandemic is over so that I can go back to my gym. I valued and enjoyed that time alone. 

However, one thing that does make me happy is taking selfie pictures. As simple as that is, I get a kick out of it. Whatever gives me joy I will enjoy that until I find another outlet. It's the small things that matter and so I'll just take baby steps. 

I forgot to mention that there was a time in my life, that I did not take pictures. I didn't feel happy or confident enough to take pictures in my early years of motherhood. Taking pictures is a big deal for me, it's very ironic that now I enjoy taking selfies.

This Is Me Enjoying A Selfie Moment!

Back To School Or Not?

 

It's August and decisions about whether school will be in person or virtual is in the works. My family and I are still in the swing of summer but we are bombarded by phone calls and emails regarding school. Our school district in New Jersey has given us the choice to send our kids to in person school or attend virtual school. Only 10 students will be in each classroom, therefore majority of the students will attended virtual school. Both of my children are in two different transitions of life. My daughter is starting high school for the first time, and my son will be in his junior year of high school. These years are very important, not to mention that children need socialization, peer interaction is very important. A lack of socialization is also a threat to mental health. It has been a difficult and agonizing decision for me, I felt like I have been beating myself up about this decision.

This Decision Has Been Stressful! 😵😵😵

Ultimately, I made the decision to have my children attend virtual school. I don't feel like it will be safe for my children to attend in person school. There are too many unknown variables with in person school. On the other hand there are also many unknowns about virtual school. I hope that the quality of education with virtual school will be also be a fulfilling experience for my children. I have faith that I made the right decision. 

Parents We Are In This Together!

This global pandemic has completely turn everything upside down. I hope that children and parents across our nation and around the globe have the support that they need. We are all in this together, whatever decision you make for your child have faith that you are making the right decision. 

Bonding Time!

Bonding time with my children is very important to me. Life is busy and hectic at times but I try to spend as much time as I can with my children. I spend time with them both together and time with them both separately. We are park people and so we enjoy walking in the park together and sometimes get ice cream afterwards. I also enjoy going to the hair salon with my daughter and going to the nail salon to get our nails done. My daughter and I also love to get sushi together. My daughter is totally responsible for turning me on to sushi, it's not something that I would have gotten on my own. I have also gone out on dates with my son, he enjoys trying different restaurants. He also enjoys going to the video game store. With that being said I would like to do these activities with them more. The current pandemic has put a damper on a lot of things, but I am determined to make the best of our time together. I have a few activities planned to get in more bonding time. I am looking forward to more fun times and great memories with my children. 

The Stork Is Coming!

Moms let's have a real talk!

What did you tell your child when he/she asked you "where do babies come from?" My kids were in their preteen years when I first got that question from them. I wasn't sure what to say at first, I was shocked to be getting this question so soon. I knew that this day was coming and I did not plan on what to say. 

The Stork Is Coming Or Not!? 

Many people tell their children that the stork brings the baby and deliver he/her to the parents. I on the other hand felt silly about saying  that a bird flew and deliver a baby like a package. I am totally not judging anyone who choose to teach their children about the stork, to each is own. If that works for you then two thumbs up for you, I am glad that you found what works for you. I on the other hand decided to take a different approach. When my kids popped the question I tried my best to answer with as little detail as possible. I was not ready to have "the birds and the bees" conversation yet and so I tip toe my way around it. Here is what I told my kids, I told them that babies are a blessing and they come from heaven. Furthermore, God put the baby in the the mommy's tummy. After I was done explaining where babies come from I waited for their reaction. I was relieved when they said "ok" just like that I was out of the hot seat. Thank God that there were no further questions because I had no follow up. The sex discussion I'll save for the next time, that was interesting to say the least.

I am interested to hear your stories about how you talk to your kids about where babies come from. Comment below and let me know your thoughts. 

Mom Needs A Vacation From A Vacation.

Do you ever get restless on summer break, that you need a vacation from a vacation?

Especially in this pandemic!

I want to plan a vacation from this summer vacation, when this pandemic is over I will be on the first thing smoking out of New Jersey. This mom is going to need a vacation from these five plus months. 

I think that we are dreaming up plans for after the pandemic. I am dreaming of a tropical island, waves crashing on the beach and the smell of coconut and pineapples in the air. May we all make it to the other side of this pandemic to our dream vacation.

Mom Gone Stir-Crazy In Quarantine

Yes, I was going stir-crazy staying home everyday in the summer.
We have a pool and other entertainment, but just staying home and nothing else is starting to take a hold on me. I had to get out of the house more often, staying in the house is starting to affect my mental health.

Don't get me wrong! I enjoy relaxing at home, but sometimes I need to get out!

To get over my stir-craziness, my family and I decided to go to mall, we took our children to get some Ice cream. We took all the precautions to keep ourselves safe. We wore masks and sanitize our hands often. I have been trying to keep my family safe from this virus by staying home, however, I have to also remember to take care of my mental health.

It was great to get out and see other people and have a change of scenery. After, my children had Ice cream we did some shopping. Getting out and having a change in scenery is just what I needed. I have to plan more activities l include leaving the house. The world is scary, but I can't stay in a bubble forever. My mental health is just as important as my physical health. As long as I take precautions to keep my family safe that is the most important thing. Looking forward to what adventures the summer holds.

Expect The Unexpected Is The Definition Of Parenthood!

Yes,

As you know you can't plan for everything in parenthood. Parenthood is filled with surprises and twist and turns. I had a day of rest planned, but an unexpected parenting duty came up. As parents were are always ready for the unexpected.

I'm sure you have also had your twist and turns as a parent as well. I think parents are always ready to change directions and change plans at the drop of a hat. We are great at showing up and getting the job done.


Wait a minute..... I am not saying parenting is easy!!!

Be it easy or  be it hard we always come through as parents.
When parenting expect the unexpected!!