Know Your Worth

 Moms, 

I don"t know about you, but I sometimes undervalue what I bring to the table. In the midst of all the challenges, twists and turns of motherhood, sometimes, I forget about how valuable I am. It's easy to see what we aren't doing, and glance over the great things that we do. Sometimes, we have to clap for our selves and remind ourselves that we are doing our best. Our families depend on us and they love even when we don't hear them say it. The most important thing, is that we as moms know our worth. We will reap the benefits of our hard work if we persevere.

 When those negative thoughts try to creep in, I will remember that I am valuable member of my family.  Clap for yourself once in a while!

How Are You Holding Up

 It has been busy, busy, busy around here. 

I have been running around non stop these last few months. I am a working mom now and I have a high school senior. I sure that I don't have to tell you how nerve wrecking that is. I am trying to make sure he get's everything for college and keeping up with all the senior activities at the same time. It is a happy time, but also I feel like I am sitting on pins and needles. I know that in the end everything will be alright, we have to all do our part to get things moving along. Not to mention, I have another child who is in her sophomore year of high school, which feels like her freshman year because it's her first time in the building. I know that many of you are going through similar circumstances. Let us not get overwhelmed, because these are blessings. The fact that our families are progressing shows how blessed we are. Soon we will reap the benefits of our hard work as a family. 

I Am The Kind Of Mom That Apologizes When She's Wrong

 Growing up, it was "normal" for children to be seen and not heard, and a child should stay in a child's place. Let's tackle that subject. I do agree that a child should be respectful, and be privy to only child appropriate situations. When it comes to the notion that a child should not be heard, that is where I disagree. Everyone has thoughts, feelings and emotions, and should have a safe space to express those concerns. Children are little humans that are going through their own experiences in this world, making them feel less than does not help them in the long run. 

That leads me to this point, 

parents are not always right, simply put. The lines between parent and child is sometimes blurred and confusing. I can relate to this, nothing is ever smooth sailing when raising children. Whether you have one child or many, there are heck ups along the way. There are so many thoughts and feeling involved in a family dynamic, it's sometimes a challenge to see with sober eyes. With that being said, there are moments that I have to reflect and circle back to apologize to my children.

Having the wisdom to realize that I am wrong and then having the courage to apologize is a big step. I want to create a atmosphere that my children feel safe and valued. I am not right all the time  just because I am the parent, and my parental authority does not make me less accountable for my actions. I am a mom that apologizes when I am wrong. I am not a perfect mom, but I am a good mom because I know when to admit that I am wrong. What are your thoughts about this topic? Do you apologize to your children? Feel free to comment, and let me know your thoughts. 

I Am Done Beating Myself Up

 Yes, Mommies!

I have been way too hard on myself in the role mom. I am done beating up on myself because honestly it makes the journey much more difficult than it needs to be. Life gets hard, but I am doing the best that I can and that is all that I can do. I know in my heart that I am doing the best that I can and that is all that I can do. I am learning that I cannot solve every problem and I don't have all the answers. I can do what I can and ask for help with other things and somethings will have to work themselves out. I stand in the power of being alright with not having it all figure out. 

I deserve happiness and I am done beating myself up, point blank and period. I am putting an end to beating myself up. I am practicing being kind to myself.  All may not be perfect in my world but my world will keep on turning. Wishing you peace and happiness along your journey, may your world flourish.

My Life Is Flashing Before My Eyes

 Lately, I can't help but feel like I am old because time is just flying by so fast. As I watch my children grow and  accomplish so many milestones it feels surreal. My first born will be 18 years old soon and my second child will be 16 years old. I can't help but to think how fast the years are going by. I feel like my life is flashing before my eyes. On the other hand I can't help but to feel proud, one decision after another for the last 18 years has brought me to this place. That is something to be proud of.

Life is far from perfect but it is a blessing. My children are a blessing to my life, I Have grown as a person because of them. Through the many twists and turns of life, I have gained so much from the experience of being a mom. I have learned from the difficult times and I am better because of it. I will continue to learn as my children transition into adulthood. As time progress I appreciate everything both the difficult and the good situations. All of this has brought me to this place that I am in my life. The place that I am in is a state of reflective joy. I feel joy when I think about my journey as a mother. This joy that I feel is the sum total of laughter, tears, prayers and smiles. Time does not stand still, but I am soak in every moment.

Learning And Growing With Teenagers

Everyday is a learning experience with teenagers and the years seem to be flying by so fast. I am preparing my children for adulthood, but at the same time I want to hold on to their child like spirits and spend time with them making more memories. I don't want them to be in a rush to grow up, at the same time I have to prepare them for the future. It is a complicated situation, I am learning how to keep things balanced. 

Keeping It Balanced

I enjoy sharing special moments with my teenagers, the fun and laughter is like none other. As my children gets older I am understanding the importance of taking time to smell the roses together. These days are precious and I don't want it to slip by. Although there is an urgency to make plans for the future, that cannot be over shadowed by the present. Everything has it's time and place, I trust that we are always at the right place at the right time. We are moving from grace to grace and I trust in the process. 

I Am Guilty Of Trying To Fix Everything For My Children

 Yes, 

I confess!!!

I am guilty!!

I can't help myself sometimes and I want to make everything alright, and make sure everything is smooth sailing for my children. I have a hard time standing by and seeing my children struggle. I want to make there lives as easy as possible. The problem with this is that I am not giving them the independence they need to grow. I have only recently came to the realization that I can't fix every situation for my children. There are somethings that they must solve on there own to have independence and build a healthy self esteem. Me solving everything for my children, will not give them the chance to feel the gratification of the self accomplishment. Self accomplishment is important in have a healthy self esteem and self worth. 

Although, I would like to fix every situation, something's they will have to do alone. I am doing them a disservice if I am not allowing them to have some independence. I can't play "mommy fix it"  forever, it is time that I make some changes. However, make no mistake I will be there to be a support system for them no matter what.