My Life Is Flashing Before My Eyes

 Lately, I can't help but feel like I am old because time is just flying by so fast. As I watch my children grow and  accomplish so many milestones it feels surreal. My first born will be 18 years old soon and my second child will be 16 years old. I can't help but to think how fast the years are going by. I feel like my life is flashing before my eyes. On the other hand I can't help but to feel proud, one decision after another for the last 18 years has brought me to this place. That is something to be proud of.

Life is far from perfect but it is a blessing. My children are a blessing to my life, I Have grown as a person because of them. Through the many twists and turns of life, I have gained so much from the experience of being a mom. I have learned from the difficult times and I am better because of it. I will continue to learn as my children transition into adulthood. As time progress I appreciate everything both the difficult and the good situations. All of this has brought me to this place that I am in my life. The place that I am in is a state of reflective joy. I feel joy when I think about my journey as a mother. This joy that I feel is the sum total of laughter, tears, prayers and smiles. Time does not stand still, but I am soak in every moment.

Learning And Growing With Teenagers

Everyday is a learning experience with teenagers and the years seem to be flying by so fast. I am preparing my children for adulthood, but at the same time I want to hold on to their child like spirits and spend time with them making more memories. I don't want them to be in a rush to grow up, at the same time I have to prepare them for the future. It is a complicated situation, I am learning how to keep things balanced. 

Keeping It Balanced

I enjoy sharing special moments with my teenagers, the fun and laughter is like none other. As my children gets older I am understanding the importance of taking time to smell the roses together. These days are precious and I don't want it to slip by. Although there is an urgency to make plans for the future, that cannot be over shadowed by the present. Everything has it's time and place, I trust that we are always at the right place at the right time. We are moving from grace to grace and I trust in the process. 

I Am Guilty Of Trying To Fix Everything For My Children

 Yes, 

I confess!!!

I am guilty!!

I can't help myself sometimes and I want to make everything alright, and make sure everything is smooth sailing for my children. I have a hard time standing by and seeing my children struggle. I want to make there lives as easy as possible. The problem with this is that I am not giving them the independence they need to grow. I have only recently came to the realization that I can't fix every situation for my children. There are somethings that they must solve on there own to have independence and build a healthy self esteem. Me solving everything for my children, will not give them the chance to feel the gratification of the self accomplishment. Self accomplishment is important in have a healthy self esteem and self worth. 

Although, I would like to fix every situation, something's they will have to do alone. I am doing them a disservice if I am not allowing them to have some independence. I can't play "mommy fix it"  forever, it is time that I make some changes. However, make no mistake I will be there to be a support system for them no matter what.

Readjusting To Drop Offs And Pick Ups After A Year 1/2 Of Virtual Learning

 For most of us it has been a year and a half that our children have been attending virtual school. I never thought that virtual learning would last this long. On the flip side of the coin, I never thought that my children would have to return to school masked up and with hand sanitizer. This is a new world that we are living in, and it feels unreal. 

Additionally, We are all adjusting to our new normal. Besides the masks and hand sanitizers, our children are readjusting to being in the school building and parents are readjusting to drop offs and pick ups. I must admit that I got kind off spoiled, not having to do drop offs and pick ups free up a lot of time. I enjoyed not sitting in the school traffic, although it came at a cost. My children are over virtual learning and are looking forward to in person learning. That makes it worthwhile for me. 

I find that I am dragging myself in the morning to do drop offs, I am extremely rusty at it. What a difference a year make. Can anyone relate to this? Nevertheless, I have to get back on the saddle and get back to my regular routine. 

The Time Is Now

 Hi mommies,

The time is now!

I have been putting off some very important things that I want to do for myself. I have been putting it off because it never seemed like a good time. I have been using my kids as a excuse not to care for myself, yes, motherhood is hard and it keeps me busy. However, if I am being honest, it's very easy to use my kids an  excuse for not finding time to take care of my needs. I have allowed a lot of things to fall by the wayside Some that have affected my health and well being. 

The time is now for me to get back on track and be accountable for my choices. Today, I choose to work on my goals without excuses. I may not get it right the first of second time, but I will promise to pick myself up and keep going. 

Is there something that you have been putting off, if so, I hope that you too make time to be kind to yourself. Best wishes! 

I Am Not Ready!

 I can't believe that summer is almost over!!!😢😢😢

I am not ready for back packs and lunch boxes, I want summer to last a little longer. Moms, enjoy the last weeks of summer and relish in it, before you know it school will be back in session. Make every moment count. Where did the time go, I have no idea how the time went by so fast. The store are already stocked with school supplies and school uniforms. Some kids are virtual learning while others will be back in the building. For the student that are going back into the building it's going to be a new adjustment with Covid procedures in effect. For others who are virtual learning that will also be an adjustment. Either way school will be in full swing and our kids will be navigating through a new grade with new teachers. 

I am bracing myself, saying a little prayer and hoping for the best as we are transitioning from summer break into the school year. Hang in there mommies!

When Are You Going To Have More Children? Why Do People Ask This Question!?

 I am 42 years old and I still run into people that ask me that question. Why do people ask this question and why do they think that it's appropriate to ask that question. I have two children who are now teenagers and I am happy and fulfilled with my two children. I have no desire to have more children, I don't believe it's the number of children that I have that matters, but it's the quality of life that I can give to my children that matter. It's up to everyone to decide what's best for themselves. We are all different, some individuals may desire to have a big family and that is all good. However, some of us are content with the number of children that we have already. 

I wish people would resist the urge to put time limits and expectations on others. As long as a couple is in agreement with their family planning, no one else should have a say otherwise. There is enough pressure in life and it doesn't help when people are constantly forcing their thoughts and opinions in the mix. I know my life better than anyone else, I know what is best for me. In all of my years I have never thought to ask anyone that question, because frankly it's none of my business. Family planning is personal and private and it should remain that way, unless an individual  wants to volunteer that information. This is my take on the subject. 

Have you ever been asked this question? If so, what do you think about it? Let's discuss it in the comment section.